For Tom and, and everyone else about that basically hates her and every person for what she, they do for a living.
I never ever did call Andrea by Lea. Because from our conversations Lea De Mae was a mask. She considered what she did for a living an occupation. Overall she loved it. But there were times she did not like what she was doing. There were certain people she liked and did not like performing with. There were days she did not want to shoot. She had called me a few times complaining and even sounding tiresome of it. Just like a job for anyone. Yes, this was a job. For those of you that think when these performers say they want "it" all the time and really mean it. Your living in obscurity. It is their job. Usually they are under contract and much of the time that includes putting on a show behind as well as in front of the camera. It's all about selling film.
For some, it is so easy to think and call these persons sluts, whores, prostitutes, etc. when in fact it is totally diffrent. Some turn into the business because there is no other choice. Some turn because it is the best choice. Most little boys and girls would not grow up wanting to be a porn star when they grow up. For a lot of people the money is better than what they could get elsewhere. Would you not give a job a try if you think you might like it and it pays more? I bet you 95% or even higher would do it. If you like it you would stay. Hell, so would I.
Then you have the question of morality and religions. What exactly is the good of morality when you cannot have an open mind about things? And how can God forgive if you do not sin? I know for a fact that the religion thing was on Andrea's mind. She told me. She had pressures about it personaly. She was upset very much at times. Does that make anything she or anyone else does right when we feel bad. Of course not. Andrea was just really starting to find herself when tragedy struck. In my opinion she had Atheistic views. But she definatley knew that there is a higher power. She at times when it came up, very reluctant to talk about it. But she was starting to change it seemed.
Yes, Lea De Mae worked in the porn industry. But Andrea Absolonova was a bright, kind, humble, person. Who loved life, and what life had to offer. I am lucky that I got to know Andrea side as well as the Lea side. I could tell them apart. Maybe that is why I felt so close. Maybe that is why she confided to me thing she might not have confide to others closer to her. I don't know. Maybe Tom and XXX, and others cannot comprehend the diffrence.
Tom, lets say you would be hit by a car and Andrea was one of few people there to see it. No one there to help? Or would she be one of the first to reach you if no one else were there for you? Would it then matter to you what she did for a living? I wonder, if you even care to know the true answer? I even wonder if you care to know the true person she was and not the actress? If you could blink from your TV once in a while you might be able to see some truth. Reality is out here man. Reach for it all with an open mind.
Thanks Para I think theres alot in that for us to think about. Whats great about this forum and website is that its given us an insight into Andrea rather than Lea and shown us how rich and full her life really was. I first heard about Andrea (her diving mishap) when I was working for the Australian Olympic team in the mid nineties but I was also aware of her life as Lea. Her biography is becoming more and more important to me as I start to learn more about her, I look forward to its completion.
I am getting a few emails on what I meant about Andrea having "atheistic views".
When being heartfeld in writing things can be misconstrude.
I need to make one thing clear. I do not think Andrea was atheist. If I offended anyone, that was not intended. I was stating an opinion using the word "atheist" to help describe. I do know Andrea's family are of faith and assume that Andrea was of that faith. I do not want anyone to get a misconstruded vision of what I write. Andrea was and still is a special person in my life. I do not want to give anyone the wrong perception of her. Again I am sorry to anyone I might of offended or took off guard. And thanks for the people that emailed wanting clairification. It is understood and I hope I have cleared anything up.
I just wanted to say that Andrea and her family don't have anything to be ashamed of. I don't think that you have to justify her religious views to anyone. Whatever her belief in God was (or wasn't) should only be between her and her maker.
Frankly I don't think she did anything wrong in making adult entertainment. She certainly didn't break any laws or hurt anybody did she? Most people work in professions that don't enrich their spirits the way they may have hoped. But people like Tom are the last people that should be able to dictate morality. I mean the guy intentionally tries to hurt people by his words during a time of loss and mourning. In my humble opinion he is the one who is morally repugnant not Andrea.
I don't know all of the good qualities that made Andrea who she was but you are probably sad every day for what you've lost in her passing. Please don't let mean spirited fools effect your loving memories of a young woman you clearly care deeply about.
I hope that I've brought you a little bit of comfort in writing this reply to your posting.
Best wishes to you and your loved ones in this sad time.
